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But the trade remains lucrative in Kenya, despite being illegal.
Nelly Njoroge, a Counseling Psychologist working with victims of Sexual and Gender-based Violence says that judging those in the trade is inappropriate.
At dusk, the twilight girls from all walks of life, keep streaming in, coming back where danger, violence and substance abuse rage. Studies on the Sociology of aging show that pressure and sexual abuse cause psychological aging, especially if such abuse is repetitive (wear and tear theory, Havinghurst, 1974).
Further, prostitution shortens one’s reproductive lifespan, causing psychological and physical depreciation (Ouko and Odhiambo, 1999).
Soon, they will end up in slums, where housing is cheaper. “We use witchcraft and love potions,” retorts another. One of my lecturers recently raised a concern: “I’m afraid to walk at K-street (maybe in search of a lover). ” This confirms that the University is well aware that bright students are in the trade for a variety of reasons. They are unfriendly to neighbors, but people can pinpoint them easily. They avoid question about how they earn a living,” says Likoko. They cannot trust a stranger, especially an inquisitive one. They are afraid that you are like the many who judge them, especially if you stare at them,” Likoko affirms. Initially, they suffer shock, then disillusionment. There is often the need to pay for anti-retrovirals, nurse wounds after battery by crazy or demanding customers, pay hospital bills and buy drugs to numb their pain. The most we can do is counsel them.” Hope at the end of the tunnel “I can’t get out unless I get an alternative source of income,” is the hope of one aging girl. When asked about what legacy they want to leave, their body language changes. This is where the journey to liberation begins, for most. This former commercial sex worker and mother of a 3-year-old became sexually active at age 16. 50,000 (US$ 680) or slum ones who earn as little as Kshs.20 a day.” We merely explored the streets on our way to hostels, from campus.” Little did she know her calling was to mentor the girls out of prostitution.
Here, young teens are taught the art of lovemaking by aunts or peers. An encounter with twilight girls confirms that most have a don’t-care attitude. Likoko is concerned that some aged 16 and 17 are violent. They account casually of a kill or a stab,” she adds. “Her son must know that his mother is up to no good. Eunice Likoko is a Social worker at Full Circle, a ministry that was inspired by the likes of Africa Reaching Africa and Women at Risk (based in Addis-Ababa, Ethiopia) who are walking a journey of reclaiming the lives of Commercial Sex Workers. Full circle is an initiative of Mamlaka Hill Chapel.
”Society expects them to ‘act their age’, as they are often unruly, loud and skimpily dressed,” says Likoko. Rehabilitators need to avail alternative livelihoods for the sex workers. But they love our approach and keep coming back,” adds Likoko. Supporting an errant child is crucial in preserving their future.If this is coupled with value change, the girls will not retrogress. Each of us needs to find out the story behind any sex worker.Cultivating a work culture in them will keep them off the streets. “One can only judge when they have played an active role in rehabilitating a street worker," says Nelly.Frequenting the streets gradually causes her conscience to die. She separates her body from the sexual act,” she adds. Since behavior is learned, victims of rape for example, either chose to refrain from sexual intercourse altogether, or suffer low self-esteem.
One aged 18, tells of how she was fronted into the trade by her mother, to supplement the family’s income.
“The fact that they bend over backwards to their clients could be a sign of rejection, class-level tensions or low self-esteem. “Suppression of values is another cause of prostitution.